The most important factor that affects the lasting time of friendship.
1. always help each other
2. have same interests and views on important things
3. trust each other completely
A life-long friendship is sought after by almost everyone in the world, which raises a question: how can we find one? There is no accurate answer to this query since there exist numerous factors contributing to a high-quality and lifetime friendship. One opinion believes that trust is the foundational building block of a friendly relationship, and I get hold of a similar idea. The following paragraphs will further discuss this perspective.
First of all, misunderstandings are usually inevitable, and trust is able to squash all kinds of rumors and bring two friends together as close as they always have been. Gossips may come from thin air but carry the devastating power to drive two people apart. Faith shared between two soulmates will make any rumor seem ridiculous and disappear. For instance, one day in college, I was told by a classmate that the reason why my boyfriend broke up with me was he was seeing my best friend at that time. I didn’t believe a word of it because I supposed she would never do things like that. As a result, we still hang out a lot even many years after graduation, and that rumor has caused nothing unpleasant between us.
Plus, trust makes it possible to reveal your deepest secrets to your friend, so that you can receive comfort and support from the other person to pull through the darkest days. Friendship is often associated with codependency and responsibility. Without trust, doubt on possible betrayal will arise and one may never fully rely on another person. Take my favorite band’s lead singer‘s story as an example. He recently revealed to the press that in his early 20s, he was suffering from grave depression and substance abuse problems. Fortunately, he turned to a friend for help, who was safe for him to let out everything and kept his secrets all the time. Thanks to the singer’s trust, they have been in a close relationship for decades and probably will still be for the rest of their lives. He said he would always appreciate what his friend did for him during that time.
Of course, the other two options also play a vital role in determining the lasting time of a friendship. However, always helping each other sometimes can be impractical because there will sooner or later be situations where you are unable to help. Besides, sharing similar passions do not warrant a complete friendship. People you can hang out with are not necessarily who you can count on. The connotation of friendship lies beyond same interests or views.
In a word, trust is the biggest contributor to a healthy and long-lasting friendship out of these three factors, for it could preempt harm brought by gossips and eliminate all barriers between two souls.
1. come from thin air：凭空产生
2. pull through：渡过难关
3. drive two people apart：把两人分开，两人渐行渐远
4. break up with sb.：和某人分手
5. play a vital role：起关键作用